Let’s Be Still

One thing that I can say I’ve carried with me from all of my significant romantic relationships, bad or good, is music. My entire life has been infused with music and it’s only fitting that my romantic relationships were also. From Foo Fighters and Gillian Flynn to Dave Matthews and Head in the Heart, I’ve walked away from every relationship with a new musical love.

Music soothes my pain and eases my loss as well as elevating the happiness and fondness that I felt with and for someone.

Eventually though, the bad memories start to slip away and are replaced by a sense of comfort and peace. And eventually, I am able to step beyond the anger and grief to find a simple pleasure in remembering what was… remembering the parts of the relationship that made me smile. That still, occasionally, make me smile. These are the parts, the times, that I want to remember.

Music is healing and encompassing. It breaks down barriers and comforts fears. It is what binds us as inhabitants (not just humans, all life forms enjoy music) of this beautiful planet Earth that we live on.

Music is Life… And Love.

So just for a moment… let’s be still…

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Men Behaving Badly Pt 2

^^My response when a guy balks at giving me his last name. PS… If I don’t ask before I meet you, it is because I’ve already found your on-line presence and you have, so far, passed.

top ten things men say to women they meet on-line

10. “I only contact a few select women.”

9. “I really want to fall in love” or “I’m not just looking for sex.”

8. “I am really good at oral.”

7. “My ex-girlfriend turned out to be really crazy.”

6. “I’ve been told that I am a lot of fun once you get me out.”

5. “I know how to treat a woman.” or “I respect women.”

4. “You can trust me.”

3. “My wife lets me date.”

2. “I’d never intentionally hurt you.”

1. “Not All Men.”

The Most Beautiful People

“The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen” ~ Elisabeth K├╝bler-Ross

online dating odds for women

Yesterday, I recieved:

97 Likes and 23 Messages…

15 of which were “hi/hey/you’re beautiful” or some other minimal effort.

3 were vulgar.

5 I responded to, and out of these…

1 was trying to cheat on his wife (I’m ethically non-monogamous)

1 was looking for MFM (I’m a 1 on 1 girl)

1 was a couple looking for a unicorn (I am not THAT kind of unicorn)

So, out of 23 messages, only 2 were not a complete waste of my time.

And this is the reality of on- line dating for women so think about it the next time you whine about how difficult it is for you to get a response from a woman in the on-line dating world, men.

One day.

One on-line dating app.

One woman.